Some Wisdom

I was at Dewan Perdana FELDA last night for helping out with photography and some multimedia work. I had an opportunity to have chit chat with an old couple, a friend of Dato' Nurazman. The couple, a chinese husband and a malay wife, shared with me some wisdom about relationship. Coincidentally, the MC for that night was giving a pantun based on Barbra Streisand's song for which I think it was a crappy pantun. The old lady, whom I addressed her as Aunty, corrected the MC by saying to her husband, "it's not when you meet the other half, your life will be complete. Instead, you need to complete yourself first before you meet your other half". Uncle seemed to concur with his wife. I was perplexed and unhesitantly proceed to ask her.

So she replied by saying, a man or a woman should complete him/herself first before getting into relationship. He/she must discover of who he/she is and what is his/her purpose being on this earth. Her husband, once again concurred with what she said. He said, he was trying hard to woo his wife back when they were in college for his wife at that time wasn't quite easily let him get to her. Finally Aunty told me that at the end, she accepted Uncle for his sincerity to be with her. He worked hard to get to her and didn't take her for granted. Instantenously, I felt sad. I felt 'sebak'. I held my tears from rolling down and I fake my smile. It's true that I am having a little bit of difficulty in my life now and their advices meant a lot for me.

They both continued sharing with me about the wisdom in relationship. Uncle said, in order to maintain a harmonious and healthy relationship, the couple must have at least some similarities. Unlike the popular belief - to be in relationship, a couple must have compliment each other. Uncle strongly believed that in order to successfully maintain a relationship, both individual must support each other by sharing the same similarities. It's not like everything must be the same. You can be different but at the same time, have one or two things in common. Like for them, they both made their life purpose to seek the Truth when the Truth is actually coming from one source - Allah Ta'ala. He was a Christian follower before he converted to Islam. He told me that he didn't convert to Islam just for marrying his wife. He saw two marriages broke off because of the wrong objective in converting to Islam. In fact, subsequently due to the same reason, that impressed his wife. I continued asking them of how they know that they are meant for each other. Uncle and Aunty both advice me to do solat istikharah when I'm having difficulties dealing with this kind of situation. He said again that eventually I'll have to face the big question squarely. It will come to me for sure. But don't be despair for help is always available from the high above. I just nod my head.

We talked about so many things later - business, personal background, issues on certain policies especially in education etc. Apparently, Uncle is the Chairman for few corporate bodies and member of few board of directors. One of the corporate entity which I am familiar with is Kuwait Finance House Inc. He then asked for my business card. Unfortunately I didn't have my name card with me and so he gave his to me. I asked him whether I can contact him through his email if I want to ask for his advice. He welcomes me to do that albeit he doesn't promise to reply it promptly. Aunty even invited me to come and meet her family. Insya Allah, that's what I will do.