Benda Tak Seberapa Untuk Dikongsi Bersama

"Kadang-kadang, orang yang paling kita sayanglah yang paling payah nak disayangi" - Makcik Rubiah, filem Cinta.

Aku baru tahu result UPSR dua orang budak darjah 6 yang aku ajar tusyen tahun ni. Sorang dapat A dalam Science dan Math. Sorang lagi dapat A dalam Science tapi B dalam subjek Math. Not bad la kan? Well done.

Now jiran aku mintak aku ajar tusyen PMR dan UPSR untuk anak dia. Aku tak kisah sebab family aku jaga anak-anak dia since anak sulung dia tu baby sampai ke anak dia yang nombor 4. Pendek kata, budak-budak tu dah jadi a part of our family. Lagi senang aku nak ajar. Kalo malas, "Alang bedal ajer Kakak dengan rotan!". Tersengih-sengih budak tu bila dengar aku cakap camtu.

8 Januari nanti aku akan jumpa dengan budak-budak PMR dan SPM dari Rumah Anak Yatim Bakawali. Aku mengajar tusyen kat situ for free. Aku tahu aku ni amal tak banyak. Esok-esok kalau aku mati, ini ajer lah amal jariah yang aku dapat bagi. Duit sendiri setakat ni belum banyak lagi untuk menderma buat masjid ke, nak buat rumah anak yatim ke or nak buat sekolah ke. Cuma boleh mengajar for free saja.

Kadang-kadang aku rasa geram pada cikgu-cikgu yang selalu mengomel pasal karenah pelajar-pelajar di sekolah. Sebabnya aku rasa, diorang sendiri yang pilih profesion untuk mengajar. Jadi kenapa nak kecoh-kecoh? Ada pulak yang ada low expectation pada anak murid sendiri. Sampai satu masa, kita kena beri peluang pada students untuk buat sendiri. Kita hanya sediakan panduan dan mereka harus fikir sendiri untuk bergerak dalam garis panduan diberi. Kalau diorang buat silap, kita mesti beri sebab kenapa diorang salah supaya diorang boleh berfikir. Kesilapan mesti dihukum, tapi bukannya untuk semata-mata menghukum. Sebaliknya mesti ada nilai-nilai pengajaran. Aku ingat lagi kata Residence Life co-ordinator aku, Mike Lovett kata, "It's okay to make mistake for as long you don't kill people".

How true is that? Pengalaman mendewasakan kita. Kesilapan mematangkan kita. Guru-guru zaman sekarang selalu tekankan jangan buat silap. Jadi, kalau tak pernah silap, maksudnya tak pernah buat apa-apa lah kan? Tapi kalau buat silap yang sama berjuta kali, siapa yang bangang kat sini?

Hmmm..tepuk dahi tanya diri sendiri lah!

Ayam Dah Kahwin



Hari Sabtu lepas aku attend kenduri kahwin kawan aku sejak dari Form 1. Sama-sama sebilik, sama-sama dalam rumah Amiekids and sama-sama bersilat dalam Silat Seni Gayong dulu. In fact, sama-sama datang interview scholarship PETRONAS di bangunan Dayabumi and sama-sama isi borang pilihan negara. Bezanya, dia pilih Australia and aku pilih Amerika. Dia kata dia nak ikut kakak dia yang study kat sana. Aku pulak nak gi ke Amerika sebab aku nak join band kat sana. :D



Nama mamat ni Nizam tapi since form 1 kami panggil dia Ayam. Senior Form 5 yang bagi nama tu kat dia sebab mamat ni terkentut masa senior tu lepak kat katil dia. "Ayam betul kau ni!". Lebih kurang camtu la, terus melekat nama tu sampai laa ni.

Berkawan dengan Ayam memang sangat senang. Aku jarang sekali dengar dia cerita yang buruk-buruk pasal orang lain. Semuanya yang best-best lah dia citer pasal orang. Kad jemputan kenduri kahwin dia pada aku pun, dia pi taruk nama "Tan Sri M*hd F*rid". Memang kuat memuji betul dia nih.

Apa-apa pun aku doakan dia suami isteri kekal bahagia hingga ke akhir hayat. Susah sama diredah, senang sama dinikmati. Aku tahu dia ada ramai ex girlfriend dulu-dulu time kat Australia tapi yang ni, she is the ultimate one.

"Isteri itu bukan hak milik, tapi satu anugerah" - Cikgu Elias, filem Cinta

A Dinner at the Banker's Club - Masquerade Night

The Triple A's of a Great Relationship
Posted by Dr. Laura Berman
on Tue, Dec 12, 2006, 4:51 pm PST

Couples can lose the spark for every reason under the sun. They get too busy with work or kids. They forget the little things, like kisses and small thank you's. Most relationship splits don't come down to a dramatic, life-shattering problem. Rather, it's the gradual slip of each partner's behavior that does it.

I've got an easy formula that will put some life back into any lukewarm relationship. I call it The Three A's of Relationship Rescue:

1. The first ‘A' is for Appreciation. Both sexes benefit from getting back to the sweet adoration of early love. In those days it was effortless. You rocked each other's world without even trying to. Every gesture was met with the simplest of relationship life-preservers: gratitude. Ultimately, showing appreciation makes the other person feel seen and heard. You feel like you matter. In the workaday of chores, errands, bills and whose turn it is to take the dog out, appreciation can go right out the window. You're both so busy that you start to take what the other person is doing for granted. Take a step back and say ‘thank-you' more than you might. Think of something everyday that your partner did and thank him or her for it-even on the bad days! It will help you weather the storms of love.

2. The second ‘A' is for Attention. This one is more for the guys. Remember how much you used to court your partner in the beginning? Every date was an event. Every absence a tragedy. It helps to bring back some of that urgency and romance to what's going on now. If you haven't brought home flowers for no particular reason since the last Leap Year, please head directly to the florist. If you never call just to say I love you, pick up the phone. Women want to feel cared for and loved and cherished-and not just when you're trying to get sex or make something up to her. Little gestures of seduction, with no expectations, will go a long way towards reigniting her attraction to you. Why not plan to do something nice every week? The more a woman feels that her partner is tuning into her emotionally, by helping with the kids or the house or doing something sweet, the more apt she is to be sexual. Need any more reasons?

3. The last ‘A' is for Appearance. Ladies, do you remember how much effort you put into your looks at the beginning of your relationship? I'll bet that a day at the ballgame got more effort than your anniversary does these days! Men are visual creatures. Your hair, your body, your appearance is what caught his interest in the first place. As I like to say, if you've let yourself go, your partner may still love you, but he's not going to lust you. And sorry, but kids and cooking dinner and all of that other stuff is not an excuse for looking disheveled on a regular basis. Your appearance needs to once again become a priority! In fact, when you keep yourself looking good on a daily basis, it becomes a habit. Don't reserve looking nice for a special occasion. It sends the message that you only care in a way that's strategic, designed to appease him rather than prioritize a fundamental part of his attraction to you. It will also make you feel better about yourself to stop making excuses. Eat right, put on a little mascara and lip gloss, and shave your legs more than once a week!

And men don't get off the hook here. While the visual is not quite as important to women, generally speaking, no one wants a slovenly partner. Beer guts, untended nose hair, and clothing from the mid-90s are serious offenses! If you expect her to look good, please do the same.

Ultimately, a healthy relationship is what's going to drive your passion for each other, which is what's going to rev the engine of a healthy relationship!

Special Note

Seriously, go watch Cinta. Worth every penny you spent on the movie. I did and I enjoyed the movie immensely. I enjoyed analyzed every aspect of the movie; script, lighting method, camera technique and facial expression. So many good things about it.

The essence of the movie touches my soft spot. Hehehehe..men do have soft spot, ok? But I will not about it right now. I have two appointments tonight.

But seriously, go watch the movie. Tell me about it later, ok?

Coach Gary Gaines: Being perfect is not about that scoreboard out there. It's not about winning. It's about you and your relationship with yourself, your family and your friends. Being perfect is about being able to look your friends in the eye and know that you didnt let them down because you told them the truth. And that truth is you did everything you could. There wasnt one more thing you could've done. Can you live in that moment as best you can, with clear eyes, and love in your heart, with joy in your heart? If you can do that gentleman - you're perfect! - Football Head Coach 1988, Permian High School, Odessa, TX.

I'm aint perfect man. That I know.

Another Note, Another Thought

Some people misconstrued my latest entry. I wrote it not to serve as warning or letter of notification but I wrote the entry as this blog serves as a place of expressing myself. Honestly and straightforwardly.

No dik, she's not you. In fact, she is far different than you. I did promise to take care of you and if i may, to continue to nurture you and protect you. I did promise you that you can contact me anytime and anywhere and I'm here if you want some advice or some attention. I am a man of my word and I intend to keep it that way. So, no worry - she's not you.

Anyway, there are so many things going on in my mind. Last weekend I called Kak Anim and we had a long talk over the phone. Yep, she knows exactly what was I thinking. After all, she knows me since I was in Form 4 and she knows precisely how I would behave when it comes to certain matters. I asked her many questions that night. Some of the questions made her a bit dumbfounded. But I guess I need to get some answers from her. She has been the place where I seek humanly guidance especially when I need a quick handbook guide for man-woman relationship. What's the point of asking men when it involves women, actually?

I've been cold to some people lately. Perhaps I put a thinking cap on. Perhaps, I try to find solace in my own dragon's cave. Some solitary moments may help me to do some reflection. Re-evaluating the whole situation. Re-evaluating some relationships. Try to see from a third person's perspective. Some people make me feel elated. Some people make me feel a bit disheartening and some people are just mean. Hey, I can't complain much of what I can take. But if I can't take it anymore, i'll explode and it will make everyone not happy. Who cares? Seriously, who cares? So I choose to be resolute; to be loyal only to my own feeling and I wont give a shit to anyone who doesn't show any respect to my feeling whatsoever. One of my life's mantra, if you don't care about me, then i won't give a shit about you. and if anyone of you starts to feel like i'm being distant from you, maybe it's because I sense no respect in regards to my feeling from you. That's why I keep a distant to protect myself from getting hurt emotionally.

You see, we human have developed a very strong survival instinct.

On another note, I finished reading one romantic novel. A huge achievement for myself considering I hardly read any romantic book except Dan Brown's novel, 'Angel and Demon. And the book has been in the room for the past three years without me noticed it. Now the bad news is, I can't shake this story off my damn mind. The story is so enchanting and I think I over-romanticized the whole drama. Let me put the synopsis here.

The Princess, Jude Deveraux
Her name was Aria - a beautiful, arrogant princess from a small European kingdom. Kidnapped, then left for dead in the ocean off the Florida Keys, she is swept ashore and into the arms of dashing J.T Montgomery, an officer of the American Navy. Disdainful at first, Aria is secretly tantalised by the handsome officer's brash independence...and beneath her proud reserve, J.T discovers a woman of sensuous passion.
But she has enemies who threaten to destroy her, and now she must choose between the kingdom she was born to rule and the mane she was destined to love.

I managed to finish the whole novel in one night. Damn, the story is just too beautiful for me. They've got to make it into movies. Ahhhh..I'm sucker for romantic movie. Hahahaha....

Oh well, I am done with all whining and complaining about my life. Time to plan the meeting for tomorrow. One with Northport Berhad and another one with an engineer in Jalan Yap Kwan Seng. Off to make more money!

some people they just want to drop by in the relationship to fill his/her emptiness and break up when they have gotten what they want..though certain relationship are not for last but at least it is not for lust..rite??

Saw that somewhere on someone's blog. Yep, definitely I was there too. I mean, someone dropped by and had so-called relationship and the next thing you know - she's gone. Sigh, well...it's okay. Life has to go on. And she's gone in my list.

This is what I call karma.

Have a blast weekend, everyone!