Pelajar IPT pilih lelaki berusia, berharta
Oleh Fadzlena Jafar, Berita Harian
KUALA LUMPUR: Satu kajian mendapati majoriti pelajar wanita di institusi pengajian tinggi (IPT) lebih suka memilih lelaki berusia dan berharta sebagai pasangan hidup kerana mahu mencari kemewahan segera.
Kajian Universiti Tenaga Nasional (Uniten) membabitkan 1,050 pelajar di tiga IPT, mendapati kira-kira 65 peratus responden berusia antara 21 hingga 28 tahun memilih lelaki kaya berusia 40 hingga 50 tahun.
Sebanyak 12 peratus lagi responden sanggup berkahwin dengan lelaki kaya berusia 51 hingga 60 tahun.
Kajian yang dijalankan Pensyarah Kanan Uniten, Dr Rusinah Siron dan Sabariah Siron itu juga mendapati 70 peratus responden percaya pemilihan lelaki berusia dan berharta akan mengubah gaya hidup.
Paparan gaya hidup mewah selebriti tempatan yang berkahwin dengan lelaki kaya, dikatakan mempengaruhi responden dalam pemilihan pasangan hidup.
Dr Rusinah dari Jabatan Sains Pengurusan dan Pemasaran berkata, kajian berkenaan dijalankan bagi melihat perspektif dan fokus pemikiran wanita muda terpelajar dalam mencari pasangan hidup.
“Kajian ini penting kerana ia menunjukkan perubahan sosial ketara yang berlaku dalam masyarakat kita hari ini apabila semakin ramai gadis muda mengimpikan kekayaan dengan jalan singkat,” katanya kepada Berita Harian.
Kajian bertajuk ‘Pemilihan Lelaki Berusia dan Berharta Sebagai Pasangan Hidup - Kenyataan atau Kebetulan’ itu, dijalankan pada Januari hingga Mac tahun lalu, membabitkan 350 pelajar wanita sebuah universiti swasta dan 700 pelajar di dua universiti awam, berusia antara 21 hingga 28 tahun.
Antara alasan yang diberi ialah berkahwin dengan lelaki berusia dan berharta menjamin masa depan mereka tanpa perlu berusaha keras untuk mendapatkan kesenangan. Malah, ada yang memberi alasan perkahwinan sebegitu membolehkan mereka menyertai golongan elit seperti yang diidamkan.
Bagaimanapun, tidak semua responden memilih lelaki tua yang kaya kerana inginkan kemewahan, sebaliknya kematangan lelaki berusia seperti sabar, romantik dan bertanggungjawab menjadi keutamaan.
Now I know why...need to work harder. It's hard to find a girlfriend nowadays, you know!!
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
My V Day is for E day; E is for EVERYDAY
Today is the Valentine's Day. Before I'll be crucified for discussing this issue, make sure everyone reads this passage with an open heart and an open mind. Does everyone celebrate love here? Does anyone celebrate lust here? I guess many would say yes for both questions. The real thing is, do people celebrate lust or love on Valentine's Day?
Some chain emails may say that Valentine's Day was originally from the idea of celebrating a Christian priest some centuries ago. Heck, I don't care if people want to celebrate him or not. All I just care is to celebrate someone who I love. Most importantly, someone whom I respect and admire and very fond of.
Mane couple spend literally from a few ringgits to few hundred ringgits to celebrate V Day. And they focus just on one day. So, the real question - is V day celebrated on the pretext of lust or love?
If many do it for the sake of love, why can't we do it every day? Love is subtle. Love is a gentle act. It doesn't have to have RM tag on it. Although it'd be nice to have some expensive object comes within, the emotional value on that will be shifted towards the tag, not the value of such object. On the contrary, lust isn't subtle. It's rough and it's raw. And obviously, it's easy. You mean, for a few ringgit or few hunder ringgits, you can celebrate your lust without hesitation. Buy an expensive dinner with your spouse/partner, give him/her an expensive present and sprinkle them with a little bit stash of cash. At the end of the day, will they remember it? Maybe...I don't know. Maybe not. Easy things is easy to forget.
For me, subtle is beautiful. I appreciate subtlety in expression and action. For example, you don't have to buy a dinner for your friend/partner/spouse. You surprise them with dinner. Make the time during the dinner meaningful by talking about important stuffs. Talking about what's matter between you and the other person. And when you write to your loved one, please do not write as in you were writing to the authority body. Write it in personal tone. Greet them in writing. Put your soul in your writing as it will reach to the bottom of his/her heart. Make them cry if that is necessary as crying is the manifestation of pure emotion. Make your partner happy, for it means you're suffering. That's the meaning of love. You make their needs much bigger than yours.
Lastly, do tell your friends/partner/spouse that you love him/her. Doesn't matter if they return back your love but at least, you get it out from your system. Tell the person that you're actually and sincerely love them. At least, it can turn an enemy into a friend, a friend into a lover and a lover into a lifetime partner. And remember, love last forever, but lust only great for one moment.
I celebrate my Love day every day with my loved ones. Either they realize it or not, it's really none of my concern. Period.
Today is the Valentine's Day. Before I'll be crucified for discussing this issue, make sure everyone reads this passage with an open heart and an open mind. Does everyone celebrate love here? Does anyone celebrate lust here? I guess many would say yes for both questions. The real thing is, do people celebrate lust or love on Valentine's Day?
Some chain emails may say that Valentine's Day was originally from the idea of celebrating a Christian priest some centuries ago. Heck, I don't care if people want to celebrate him or not. All I just care is to celebrate someone who I love. Most importantly, someone whom I respect and admire and very fond of.
Mane couple spend literally from a few ringgits to few hundred ringgits to celebrate V Day. And they focus just on one day. So, the real question - is V day celebrated on the pretext of lust or love?
If many do it for the sake of love, why can't we do it every day? Love is subtle. Love is a gentle act. It doesn't have to have RM tag on it. Although it'd be nice to have some expensive object comes within, the emotional value on that will be shifted towards the tag, not the value of such object. On the contrary, lust isn't subtle. It's rough and it's raw. And obviously, it's easy. You mean, for a few ringgit or few hunder ringgits, you can celebrate your lust without hesitation. Buy an expensive dinner with your spouse/partner, give him/her an expensive present and sprinkle them with a little bit stash of cash. At the end of the day, will they remember it? Maybe...I don't know. Maybe not. Easy things is easy to forget.
For me, subtle is beautiful. I appreciate subtlety in expression and action. For example, you don't have to buy a dinner for your friend/partner/spouse. You surprise them with dinner. Make the time during the dinner meaningful by talking about important stuffs. Talking about what's matter between you and the other person. And when you write to your loved one, please do not write as in you were writing to the authority body. Write it in personal tone. Greet them in writing. Put your soul in your writing as it will reach to the bottom of his/her heart. Make them cry if that is necessary as crying is the manifestation of pure emotion. Make your partner happy, for it means you're suffering. That's the meaning of love. You make their needs much bigger than yours.
Lastly, do tell your friends/partner/spouse that you love him/her. Doesn't matter if they return back your love but at least, you get it out from your system. Tell the person that you're actually and sincerely love them. At least, it can turn an enemy into a friend, a friend into a lover and a lover into a lifetime partner. And remember, love last forever, but lust only great for one moment.
I celebrate my Love day every day with my loved ones. Either they realize it or not, it's really none of my concern. Period.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Hello blog,
Yes, I'm still alive today. Yesterday was quite an eventful day for me. Started my day with a 1.5 hour trip to Bukit Kapar in Kelang for Jirah's akad nikah ceremony. Syawal and his wife (Ainurul), Lokman without his wife, Bopi and his girlfriend and Zul was there. Some juniors (Serih, Syah and Ajeep) were there as well. It was fun meeting up with my gang from American Top U batch again. I wondered why some people didn't turn up that day. Oh well, maybe it's really none of my business to ponder for their whereabouts anyway.
I then stopped at Seri's house in Meru after spending a 2 good hours chatting with old buddies in Bukit Kapar. The only reason why I stopped there was to visit her mother. I heard she's not feeling right. In my way to her house, I didn't know what to buy at first. Finally I settled at buying watermelon for her mom. Mana aku tau dowhh nak beli apa untuk mak orang yang tak sihat!! Yeah, I know - cheesy! But I guess I'm learning something. Next time, bring some gifts whenever we visit our friends' place. Yep, I had a good chat with her mom while waiting for Seri to get ready. Yeap, I love having conversation with my friend's parents. Don't know why and don't ask me why.
We both went to Erfan's gathering in Kota Kemuning, Shah Alam. I thought we'd be late but apparently, we were the first. Ahhhh...being a good guest, I engaged myself in conversation with Erfan's mother and his aunt as well. Much to learn from this businesswoman though. See, his mother is a single mother raising a few kids in the house and runs business too. Obviously, I've got to learn one or two things from her - character, values and virtues, PR skills etc.
We actually celebrated Erfan for his departure to Brisbane this coming Tuesday. He will further his study there and hopefully a year and a half later, he will get his degree. I've come to know him through my volunteer network and I find him a very good friend and an accomodating one too. Being humble although he lives in a mansion (to my standard of housing scale), and being the youngest among the volunteers makes him likeable to everyone. I rarely find a gentleman like himself. We all had a good time teasing him and his mother too for being too macho and not feeling sad for this departure. I remember my mom was sobbing when I was at the airport 7 years ago. And surprisedly, she hugged me just before I walked down the escalator to the Immigration booth downstair.
Okay, I think it's enough for today. By the way, I had my meeting with Dato Syed Fakhri at his office in Menara Tun Razak. That meeting was something eye-opening for me. But later I'll write about it here. Gain another friend, gain another experience.
OH yeah people, I've been attending Prof. Syed Naguib Al Attas's discourse for this past two weeks. He's genuinely a great international scholar and a famous one too from Msia. If anyone would like to attend his discourse, it will be held in Institut Integriti Malaysia on Jalan Duta at 9 pm, Friday.
Have a blast Sunday everyone!
Yes, I'm still alive today. Yesterday was quite an eventful day for me. Started my day with a 1.5 hour trip to Bukit Kapar in Kelang for Jirah's akad nikah ceremony. Syawal and his wife (Ainurul), Lokman without his wife, Bopi and his girlfriend and Zul was there. Some juniors (Serih, Syah and Ajeep) were there as well. It was fun meeting up with my gang from American Top U batch again. I wondered why some people didn't turn up that day. Oh well, maybe it's really none of my business to ponder for their whereabouts anyway.
I then stopped at Seri's house in Meru after spending a 2 good hours chatting with old buddies in Bukit Kapar. The only reason why I stopped there was to visit her mother. I heard she's not feeling right. In my way to her house, I didn't know what to buy at first. Finally I settled at buying watermelon for her mom. Mana aku tau dowhh nak beli apa untuk mak orang yang tak sihat!! Yeah, I know - cheesy! But I guess I'm learning something. Next time, bring some gifts whenever we visit our friends' place. Yep, I had a good chat with her mom while waiting for Seri to get ready. Yeap, I love having conversation with my friend's parents. Don't know why and don't ask me why.
We both went to Erfan's gathering in Kota Kemuning, Shah Alam. I thought we'd be late but apparently, we were the first. Ahhhh...being a good guest, I engaged myself in conversation with Erfan's mother and his aunt as well. Much to learn from this businesswoman though. See, his mother is a single mother raising a few kids in the house and runs business too. Obviously, I've got to learn one or two things from her - character, values and virtues, PR skills etc.
We actually celebrated Erfan for his departure to Brisbane this coming Tuesday. He will further his study there and hopefully a year and a half later, he will get his degree. I've come to know him through my volunteer network and I find him a very good friend and an accomodating one too. Being humble although he lives in a mansion (to my standard of housing scale), and being the youngest among the volunteers makes him likeable to everyone. I rarely find a gentleman like himself. We all had a good time teasing him and his mother too for being too macho and not feeling sad for this departure. I remember my mom was sobbing when I was at the airport 7 years ago. And surprisedly, she hugged me just before I walked down the escalator to the Immigration booth downstair.
Okay, I think it's enough for today. By the way, I had my meeting with Dato Syed Fakhri at his office in Menara Tun Razak. That meeting was something eye-opening for me. But later I'll write about it here. Gain another friend, gain another experience.
OH yeah people, I've been attending Prof. Syed Naguib Al Attas's discourse for this past two weeks. He's genuinely a great international scholar and a famous one too from Msia. If anyone would like to attend his discourse, it will be held in Institut Integriti Malaysia on Jalan Duta at 9 pm, Friday.
Have a blast Sunday everyone!
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
There is not much things I can say about now. A few quotes hanging on my mind since I dropped by at KLCC to meet a friend. Book co-written by Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki somehow left an impact on me albeit I didn't finish read it just now. But, I suspected that the book wasn't really addressing the whole issue on poverty especially in America and how people in general have been accumulating misunderstandings on wealth. My mind was still locked to a story written in tabloid last weekend about how this single mother succeeds in her business of cosmetics and beauty apparels. I sincerely admire such character and would love to meet her someday and get one or two lessons about life from her.
Moving on from that, my life has not been that spectacular. Period.
I watched a movie last night in OU. Not a very bad one but not a very good one either. The Holiday, starring Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, Kate Winslet and Jack Black. I wasnt really paying atttention to them because I found one extra character that was much captivating than them - Arthur Abbot, the script writer of the early days of Hollywood. His approach towards situation was a bit unique and spontaneous. In my not-so-movie-literate opinion, the character is very much genuine.
I've been thinking a lot lately. About myself. And some people in my life. Questions coming up from friends, people who I know and some clients whom I've been friend with. I don't know exactly how to answer their questions. I guess a smile would be sufficient at this moment.
Oh yeah, I erased a few names in my cellphone. Maybe a few more will do good to me. For those who had been erased, sorry, your presence in my life is not worth for me to keep.
Moving on from that, my life has not been that spectacular. Period.
I watched a movie last night in OU. Not a very bad one but not a very good one either. The Holiday, starring Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, Kate Winslet and Jack Black. I wasnt really paying atttention to them because I found one extra character that was much captivating than them - Arthur Abbot, the script writer of the early days of Hollywood. His approach towards situation was a bit unique and spontaneous. In my not-so-movie-literate opinion, the character is very much genuine.
I've been thinking a lot lately. About myself. And some people in my life. Questions coming up from friends, people who I know and some clients whom I've been friend with. I don't know exactly how to answer their questions. I guess a smile would be sufficient at this moment.
Oh yeah, I erased a few names in my cellphone. Maybe a few more will do good to me. For those who had been erased, sorry, your presence in my life is not worth for me to keep.