How Long Does It Take to Get Into A Relationship

Okay, I know it doesn't sound original. But, who gives a fuck about originality nowadays? Right?

Okay, I recently read a note on this thing. It's not a note, it is just a personal writing by somehone I barely know over the net. Anyway, she mentioned someting about the timing of going into relationship.

Pheww...going into relationship huh? Sounds big but simple. Yet, very much confusing. At least to my own personal understanding.

You can easily go into one without taking too much of your time. For example, you meet the girl, you see the girl and voila! Love at first sight. Konon-kononnya lah. You start dating each other right after that. I mean, after you overcome your paranoid and self-humiliating emotion and walked straight to that girl and ask for her phone number or email address or YM address (what the hell?) or possibly, her friendster address as well. Weeks after that both of you are in love. Again, I don't see it is wrong to be in love.

But what if after a few wonderful and beautiful weeks which go into a few months, the two of you go separate ways? Perplexing huh?

However, on another account, I've heard stories about two person who met only through photos and later got married only after three meetings. Woww..tell me about that!

Or..I know a few friends who stay with one girl only for more than 5 years together. Only then they feel ready to bring the relationship to higher plane.

So, when is the right time to embrace the relationship? I mean, intimate relationship? Is it too fast, or is it to slow....who determines that? Which side determines the pace? Like the wedding I attended yesterday, they both have been seriously in love only within a year or so. Before this they were just friends. And since yesterday, they are husband and wife.

All the questions asked here are essential to everybody. Unless if you don't give a damn about your own current emotional state, I'm pretty sure everyone is at least....there is a tiny miny feeling in your heart about who will come into your life as your significant other.

I heard there is a saying, "If you get her too fast, you will lose her even faster". Is it true? Does this saying hold true in reality? I know for sure, if one has to woo a girl for far too long, he will definitely feel tired and abandon his holy mission. Yet again, how long does he need to wait?

See...there are many many questins haunting every body when it comes to relationship. Sometimes people are afraid to get involved in relationship because they had bad experiences in past relationship. Sometimes there are people who just want to be in relationship but do not want commitment. And there is even kind of people who think going into relationship is just an act of socializing. After all, sociologists claim mankind is social animal.

So, what's your take? How do you determine?

For me..I'll do whatever it takes until I exhaust all the means to go through.

p/s: Still remember her dress in the first meeting and the date of the first meeting.